While 2013 provided a space for us to connect with our friends and family, 2014 now provides the opportunity for each us to review our relationships. This doesn’t mean that you will suddenly start looking at each relationship and begin to question whether or not it has value to you. However, this is an opportunity to connect with your heart and begin to question whether or not a particular relationship is healthy and supportive for you, your partner and those connected to it.
You can have a big decision to make around some of your relationships. But, you do have choice. You may decide to foster a relationship. You may decide that it’s time to leave. The decision is up to you. But, pay attention to where you may let illusion and fear overwhelm you. Fear of the unknown can be restrictive and keep many people stuck within relationships that are no longer healthy, mutual or supportive. Fear of the possibility that your words might not be heard can keep them locked inside, and prevent you from honestly talking with your partner.
With understanding and compassion you can bring awareness to any relationship that needs to be reviewed. Together, your partner and you, can discuss the possibilities for your relationship and begin to work on ways to address the issues that may be causing doubt, stress or conflict. Keep in mind as well that others may be impacted by your choices.
It’s important to be mindful about your relationship. If you’re willing to address the issues, don’t let your awareness of them be forgotten. Don’t get caught in a haze of “what if’s”, “could be’s” and “it’s not my problem.” You can compassionately and mindfully discuss your problems without bringing in anger, blame or labeling one another. You have an opportunity to ask for change. It might be that you need to forgive one another. It might be that you both begin to have greater value for the relationship, and you each begin to bring deeper awareness to your connection.
It may be that you simply decide that this relationship is no longer working. You can then decide which direction to take now. You might actually choose to stay in the relationship, but with new commitments to each other. What would that look like? Always pay attention to the needs of your heart and be willing to discuss with your partner.
This can be a powerfully transformative time for your relationships. If you’re willing, you can begin to share your inner needs and find ways to incorporate them into your life. Your life can be uplifting and expansive when you’re finding options that help you to open to your heart. Your partner may, or may not, share your interests, but he/she can support your curiosity and growth and you can do the same. Having an open, honest and ongoing dialogue where you each ask for what you need can lead your toward a relationship that helps you to feel fully alive, cared for and fully supported.
What have you always told yourself about your ideal relationship? Now is the time to bring this to the surface. Be willing to discuss your needs. Be willing to also accept that not everything you ask for will be incorporated into your relationship. But, now is your time to open to asking. Again, it’s your choice. How would you like your relationships to grow and mature?